Day 11: Something You Seem to Get Complimented the Most
I was told that I have procrastinated long enough and need to get back to work on my blog project. Honestly, I have to agree. This blog is late mainly because I had no idea how to answer. What do people compliment me on?! Sure, I get told I am pretty, thin, have nice eyes, great lashes (they are totally fake! I glue them on every day.), but those compliments are generic and how am I supposed to write about them at any length? I would sound like the biggest asshole, ever. After trying to remember the compliments I get, my manager said it “Frankie, you are a straight-shooter. I like that.” I am not sure if it counts as a compliment and I am pretty sure it is a nice way of saying “Frankie, you are a bitch and you have absolutely no filter on your mouth, but I don’t have to read between the lines of what you are trying to say, so I appreciate it”…or you know, something like that.
My manager is not the only person to express this type of sentiment to me. Like I said before, I am not sure if it is actually a compliment, but I think it is the closest to a repeating compliment I am going to get. In the PNW a lot of people are passive-aggressive. People are not clear about how they feel or what they think. Reading into what people are trying to say, as opposed to the actual words coming out of their mouth, becomes a skill and art form. While being honest and open in any other region of the US would be considered normal, in the PNW it is, apparently, refreshing.
I am not going to say I am tactful because most of the time, I am probably the complete opposite of tactful, but I figure if I am being honest and direct, that it should count for something. Of course, being too honest can make my life more difficult. How does that saying go, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar? Vinegar seems to be my seasoning of choice. Seriously, red wine vinegar on a salad is amazeballs. I digress.
Dating can be more difficult when a prospective significant other is not used to blunt, brutal honesty. Plus, most girls are liars. They wait a few months to show their crazy. In fact, I think this is true of most daters in general. But, when you are upfront about your crazy, your hard boundaries and soft boundaries it can throw off a potential date.
And trying to spare a person’s feelings means I come off wishy-washy and as if my decisions are up for discussion, like I might change my mind.
But in general, it seems that people, at the very least, put up with my abrasive and overly honest attitude, some even seem to consider it a breath of fresh air. Although I think it makes me seem tactless and rough around the edges. I suppose the thing I get complimented on the most is what makes me a diamond in the rough…or I am just horribly conceded. Either way.
I was told that I have procrastinated long enough and need to get back to work on my blog project. Honestly, I have to agree. This blog is late mainly because I had no idea how to answer. What do people compliment me on?! Sure, I get told I am pretty, thin, have nice eyes, great lashes (they are totally fake! I glue them on every day.), but those compliments are generic and how am I supposed to write about them at any length? I would sound like the biggest asshole, ever. After trying to remember the compliments I get, my manager said it “Frankie, you are a straight-shooter. I like that.” I am not sure if it counts as a compliment and I am pretty sure it is a nice way of saying “Frankie, you are a bitch and you have absolutely no filter on your mouth, but I don’t have to read between the lines of what you are trying to say, so I appreciate it”…or you know, something like that.
My manager is not the only person to express this type of sentiment to me. Like I said before, I am not sure if it is actually a compliment, but I think it is the closest to a repeating compliment I am going to get. In the PNW a lot of people are passive-aggressive. People are not clear about how they feel or what they think. Reading into what people are trying to say, as opposed to the actual words coming out of their mouth, becomes a skill and art form. While being honest and open in any other region of the US would be considered normal, in the PNW it is, apparently, refreshing.
I am not going to say I am tactful because most of the time, I am probably the complete opposite of tactful, but I figure if I am being honest and direct, that it should count for something. Of course, being too honest can make my life more difficult. How does that saying go, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar? Vinegar seems to be my seasoning of choice. Seriously, red wine vinegar on a salad is amazeballs. I digress.
Dating can be more difficult when a prospective significant other is not used to blunt, brutal honesty. Plus, most girls are liars. They wait a few months to show their crazy. In fact, I think this is true of most daters in general. But, when you are upfront about your crazy, your hard boundaries and soft boundaries it can throw off a potential date.
And trying to spare a person’s feelings means I come off wishy-washy and as if my decisions are up for discussion, like I might change my mind.
But in general, it seems that people, at the very least, put up with my abrasive and overly honest attitude, some even seem to consider it a breath of fresh air. Although I think it makes me seem tactless and rough around the edges. I suppose the thing I get complimented on the most is what makes me a diamond in the rough…or I am just horribly conceded. Either way.
